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Find Out What Other Marriage and Premarital Counselors
and Educators Are Saying...
Money issues are consistently ranked as a key problem area for couples,
yet frequently they're not adequately discussed in couples' courses or
private counseling sessions. Typically, money is a topic clients want
to avoid because they don't intuitively feel or see the connection
between habits and attitudes about money and the
ir relationships. The reality is that money issues are rarely every
about finances but are related to what money represents to each person
in the couple - security, freedom, control, power, independence, etc.
Money Habitudes cards provide an easy, non-judgmental and
non-threatening way to address financial issues with your clients - and
beyond that, to explore your own views of money and how they may affect
your conversations with your clients.
Your clients will associate the cards with the familiar, enjoyable
social entertainment of playing cards, which allows them to engage more
readily. People like manipulating the cards so they relax, let their
guard down and are more open to having productive conversations. The
cards also provide non-judgmental language which makes it easier to
discuss difficult topics.
Money Habitudes Solitaire is the most frequently used activity. The deck
of cards includes 54 statement cards that are associated with one of the
six Money Habitudes: Security, Status, Selfless, Free Spirit, Targeted
Goals and Spontaneous. The client (or you) completes a simple sorting
process, placing cards into piles identifying behaviors as "like me,"
"not like me" or "sometimes like me" (a process that takes about 15
minutes). At a glance, you and your client will get a sense of the Money
Habitudes that are dominant. By using the interpretation cards, you will
gain valuable clues about thoughts, feelings and patterns of behavior.
The cards also include suggestions for next steps based on each
habitude.
Pre-marital and couples counselors have reported that they quickly get
to the heart of their clients' true issues using the Money Habitudes
cards. The non-judgmental language of the cards and the specific
statements stimulate rich conversations. Marriage counselors and
educators using the most well-known marriage education programs can
improve their effectiveness by including a discussion of money.
Dr. William Bailey's
paper "How to Use the Money Habitudes™ Cards in Marriage
Education Programs" discusses how to incorporate using the cards
with:
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PREP (Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program) by Markham,
Stanley, and Blumberg
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Couples Communication I and II by Miller and Miller
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PREPARE/ENRICH 2000 by Olson and others)
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GREAT START by Olson, Miller, and Miller
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Click here to read
more.
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To help new clients overcome the
long-standing gag rule on talking about money, life coach Syble Solomon
has developed Money Habitudes, a set of playing cards that make it quick
and easy to uncover the underlying or even unconscious attitudes that
shape our financial lives. - Diane Sollee, Executive Director, Smart Marriages
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Using the cards created a safe
space for exploration and exposure of the emotional
connection couples have with their own handling of financial
matters and how money was handled in their family of origin. - Catherine Riley Wineburg, LCSW, MFT, Licensed Imago
Therapist
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My husband and I talked for
hours after using the money habitudes cards while we
diligently worked on the budget, taking into account all the
things we learned about each other from the cards. I can
honestly say we made more ground—on this very difficult
issue—than we have ever made in our 24 years of marriage! - Renee Colclough Hinson, ACME (Association for Couples
in Marriage Enrichment)
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One shortcoming of premarital
and marriage enrichment programs is the lack of educational
session devoted to specific topics…such as money. Money is
one of the most conflict creating issues experienced by
couples over the life course of their relationships. The
Money Habitudes™ cards are a vital, dynamic tool that can
supplement ms and others. These cards give a marriage
educator a process by which to examine money values,
beliefs, and behaviors. When using the cards, the couple is
engaged in a familiar, non-threatening activity. The cards
use a non-judgmental language that encourages the couple to
discus the most taboo topics in our culture. It allows the
facilitator of a marriage education program to quickly get
to the heart of the issue of money. I encourage you to use
the Money Habitudes™ cards to supplement the marriage
education program of your choice. I know that the couples in
your program will benefit from this experience. - William Bailey, Ph.D., Family Sciences, University of
Arkansas, Co-author of
You Paid How Much for That!? (with Jenkins,
Stanley, and Markman, 2002)
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