Financial Marriage and Relationship Class: Talking About Money
Having already covered financial education classes and career workshops, this post addresses how Money Habitudes is used in a marriage or relationship class on finances. The example is drawn from a relationship class about money, done by the Portland Relationship Center in Oregon. (A similar, shorter Money Habitudes-based relationship class happened to be posted online for the same day by Anthem Strong Families in Texas., a grantee of the DHHS Administration for Children and Families.) In addition to relationship workshops, the PRC provides Imago couples therapy and marriage counseling.
Here’s the actual posting:
- You argue about money
- You struggle with setting and sticking to your financial goals
- You are sometimes dishonest about your spending
- You spend more than you earn
- You and your partner think and feel differently about money
- I’m so excited that you are offering this workshop. I’ve posted it on my blog, and plan to attend with Toni. I’m strongly encouraging my clients to attend!
Spots in the class sold out and another session will be offered in later in the year.
How is this class like other relationship classes that use Money Habitudes?
- Fun: Talking about money, meeting with a therapist or going to marriage counseling is not usually something people think of as “fun.” Using a fun, hands-on tool makes the relationship seminar more engaging and approachable.
- Talk about money: The workshop addresses the biggest source of couples’ arguments: fighting about money.
- A series of relationship classes: The class about talking about money is offered among other relationship classes which include: Getting the Love you Want, Keeping The Love you Find, Advanced Couples Workshop. Other classes are part of a series that includes more skills-based financial classes like budgeting (e.g. Dave Ramsey Financial Peace University or Suze Orman), getting out of debt, foreclosure, buying a house, bankruptcy, etc. Other classes might include communication skills, conflict resolution, life skills, etc.
- Singles and Couples Class: The class format allows individuals or couples to participate. Some facilitators format classes so that couples interact more directly, while others encourage more group discussion.
- Cost: Many financial classes that use Money Habitudes are offered free or at a nominal cost; in this case $80 for a couple for an all-day class. This is much less expensive than an hour of private couples counseling. Many classes are offered by community agencies, marriage therapists, a variety of non-profits and churches. Often classes and are sponsored by grants such as the Healthy Marriage Initiative or Responsible Fatherhood.
- Materials: In this class, each participant will use a deck of Money Habitudes cards for Adults as well as the companion My Money Habitudes workbook. Some classes give materials to participants to take home; others reuse materials.
- Time: Although it is common for marriage classes and marriage retreats to last all-day or be an entire weekend (such as Catholic marriage prep Pre Cana classes), many Money Habitudes classes are shorter. Many are 1-2 hours. (Shorter classes employ it as a quick conversation starter or money personality assessment.) This all-day couples class format allows individuals and couples to explore their money personalities in great depth and integrate other activities and discussion.
Special training is available to teach Money Habitudes (including train-the-trainer sessions) and there is also the Guide for Professionals which has more tips, tricks and information. However, there is no license fee to use the materials with a class. Of course, many classes are offered by diverse professionals with significant experience in their field, be it financial education, financial planning and investing, couples therapy, etc.